It is not uncommon to have a guy who finds us "dodgy" at some point or another, and for many men, this is a turning point. Men are wired in such a way that they want to know that there is a good solid relationship between them and the women in their lives, and often, this is where he will discover the love of his life. We can all be finding ourselves doing this at various points in our lives, and while some of us may have a reason (i.e. being too fat, not being able to speak English, not having the right style) others just have an inclination that we are not leading a "proper" life. Regardless of your reasons, if you find yourself making excuses for why you are having trouble with the guys you like, stop doing it! He finds us, plain and simple, so stop trying so hard!.