So, what should you do when your gay teen gf and mom start toying? There are a lot of reasons why this can happen. If you want to be safe, it is best to let your kids know that you are gay and that they should be supportive of you and your relationship. However, coming out to your kids can be a bit difficult. While young children may be accepting of gay relationships without issue, they may not be able to keep their mouths shut. Older children, on the other hand, may have biases that need to be corrected. Additionally, they may have trouble keeping it a secret, which is especially difficult when it is a matter of vital importance..