Step Mom R. I'm about to let you in on a little secret that your wife probably hasn't told you. The truth is, the way she views you affects how you view her and vice versa. Your wife probably thinks that her opinion means everything and if you tell her that she's too mature for you, she'll take her anger out on you. But if she feels that you're being unkind or mean to her because of the way she treats you (disrespect, chauvinism, not spending enough time with her, etc. ), it's going to really hurt her feelings inside..