What is a dominant lady handjob? A dominant lady handjob (also known as Milf Love Handjobs) is a hand job, where one person is dominant and the other is submissive. Typically, the dominant hand is typically the man who initiates the act of lovemaking, while the submissive hand will be the one that gets love from the dominant hand. Both people involved are in a state of bliss, or arousal, which is what often leads to lovemaking. However, some women like it different, and the hand job can also be a way to spice things up in the bedroom!.