You may be wondering how you can do what a stepdad can't do for your stepson. Well, you're not the only one who has trouble with the new situation. Countless people have experienced the same things and there are even ways to get your ex to do more for the kids. If you're looking for advice, here are some tips. You must accept that a stepchild doesn't see you as a member of the family. If you're willing to learn to accept that you're not a "real" person, you must understand that it will take time for your relationship with your stepson to develop..