You may have heard the saying "StepMommy always knows whats best." It sounds like a pretty good philosophy, doesn't it? After all, who wouldn't want to be taken care of by someone who loves her kids? But in reality, it doesn't always work out this way. If your stepchildren are avoiding you, it may be because they're feeling a loyalty bind. That doesn't mean you should let them get away with it. But it's also important to let them know you respect their feelings and that they are not the only ones.